As far back as I can remember I have been curios about things. About the world, about people, about the way things work, about myself, about a greater meaning. At almost 30 years old the few wrinkles I have are on my forehead, Todd says it is because I have an “inquisitive brow”. My brow is frequently raised in question.
Last night on the drive home we discussed movement and time and inertial frames. I asked Todd why when in a car going 65 mph we do not feel that we are going that fast? This may seem like a dumb question but the truth is I was curious and I didn’t quite understand. This led to a very interesting physics conversation and I am sure it further deepened the wrinkles on my inquisitive brow. That’s OK, there is a cream for that. 😉
This morning I started my next book. When in Chicago a few months ago we were in a bookstore at the hospital downtown. I wandered into the section where all the psychology titles are kept and stumbled into a book that immediately captured my attention., Dr. Elaine Aron’s The Highly Sensitive Person. Todd was off somewhere in literature or history so I took the time to start reading. I got about 13 pages in when it was time to go. I decided not to purchase the book at that time because I had 3 at home I needed to get through first. Well I got through those 3, as well as a few more I added to the list, and am finally able to start this one.
I have been excited to read this book in its entirety as just the few pages I did read raised so many questions for me. Based on what I have read and researched on my own, I easily identify with being a Highly Sensitive Person. I think most INFPs given the information probably would, I think it just comes with this personality type. We are intuitive, at times hypersensitive to our surroundings whether it be sight, smell, temperature, or even the change in a person’s mood. This coupled with the fact that we are feelers leads to a higher level of sensitivity naturally.
Although I am finding this book to be quite interesting and as I am reading I find myself nodding my head in agreement with many of Dr. Aron’s findings I still have a level skepticism about it. I think it mainly comes from the fact that the book is written to the HSP. It is written with the assumption that you are reading because you are highly sensitive and looking for insight into yourself. Therefore the book reads almost as a self-help.
I do not know why but for some reason I have always had a funny taste in my mouth about self-help books. I am sure they can in fact be very helpful but I think it is the whole idea of confirmation bias that bothers me. For example, anyone that is feeling a certain way about anything could go find an article online or book that validates how they feel and then suddenly any opportunity for growth is extinguished because “it’s not me, it’s the rest of the world”. Ya know?
I think it was Aristotle that talked about an educated mind is one that can entertain a thought without accepting it. I feel like that is how this kind of thing should always be approached. Stay curious and always ask questions. Like I said that is what made me interested in this book to begin with. Sure, I recognize a lot of myself and my personality in what I am reading but the real reason I am intrigued by this book is the questions it raises in me. Questions I have to answer on my own. I don’t necessarily buy all of what Dr. Aron is selling here but it is a jumping point for further exploration and hopefully an opportunity for continued self-awareness and growth.